Dear Mr. Fischer,
It has come to my attention that you have read my recent post, Love Amongst the War Wounds and cited it in your online swamp of hate as "proof" that gay people can change. I would like a chance to refute what you have said.
First, I'm not gay. I'm openly bisexual. This means that:
I have the physical and emotional capacity to be in romantic or sexual relationships with both men and women. There is nothing confusing about this. It simply is. I’ve known since age 14 that I'm attracted to both men and women. I’ve had girlfriends and boyfriends. I have been married to a man, and was partnered with another woman for three years.
To quote Lady Gaga, I was, in fact, "born this way."
Second, you take a lot of things out of context to support your position of hate, which, I understand, is fairly common for a hate group to do. If you had any intellectual honesty in you, you would have looked at my linked post from December concerning being bisexual. In it, I state the following:
So what happens if the Right Guy comes along? I will be surprised as hell, probably unprepared. After a battle with my mind, my heart will win. We don’t just choose whom to love, after all. The heart wants what it wants, and no amount of attempts to segment and label will change that.
You ignore the reality in which bisexual people such as myself live, and instead insist upon erasing our existence. A 2002 analysis (opens as .pdf) conducted by the National Center for Family Growth found that 3.4% of women ages 18-44 surveyed identified as bisexual, being attracted to both men and women.
Third, you referred to me as an "ex-gay".
We’ve often made the point that race is immutable but sexual orientation is not. We don’t know any ex-blacks, but we do know ex-gays. Now everybody who reads “Pam’s House Blend” knows one too.
I'm not an ex-gay, Bryan. I'm a bisexual woman who at this time happens to be madly in love with a wonderful man. I'm insulted and disgusted that you would take something as amazing as love, especially between two people who have been through as much hell as Jester and I have, and twist it to suit your agenda of hate.
If you want to use our story for any purpose, you might consider using it to advocate for more research and development into prosthetics for those with amputation injuries. You could call your followers to donate to the Wounded Warrior Project, which helps injured vets and their families. You could promote projects like Homes For Our Troops, which builds specially adapted homes for severely injured vets at no cost to the veteran.
I hope that one day you will see that the Light of the Divine resides in all of us, whether gay, intersex, straight, transgendered, bisexual, cisgendered, or genderqueer. Until that day, I will continue to work against your agenda of hate, in the streets, on the blogs, with my legislators, with my family and friends, and in a few years, in courtrooms as an attorney fighting for the equal rights of all Americans.
Goddess bless you.
Regards,
Keori